You do have a good point regarding the precedences set by other areas of the grid. I suppose, in part, I simply do not think like other people. It never crossed my mind, even as a newcomer, to enter anything that did not remotely resemble a public building or shop without an invitation from the current tenants.

I would have felt bad ejecting him myself. In the time that I’ve held Westmoreland, I cannot recall ever ejecting someone. I did threaten many evils upon the individual who set up the car dealership in Westmoreland airspace, some several hundred feet above my own little skybox. But, that was upon extreme provocation.

I prefer to try and lead by example, than by restrictions, which is why only the Preserve has auto-return set. And even that is set to somewhere in the neighborhood of 10 hours. But, the Preserve is intended as public land for the enjoyment of all Caledon and her sister realms. I maintain a responsibility, then, to see that it is kept nice. But on the residential side, I prefer a more open approach.

It’s a double-edged sword, I suppose, leaving oneself open has the not-so-delightful side effect of, well, leaving oneself open. heh.

Although, I suppose I could do what I would do where someone to enter my non-virtual abode unannounced and greet such guests with the business end of one of my broadswords!

Along those lines, I was entertaining guests in my modest cottage in Caledon Downs a few days ago when a gentleman walked in and proceeded to stand in front of my couch, blocking my view of one of my guests. He said nothing. We tried various methods of communication, ultimately inferring that the man did not speak English. After about ten minutes of silence (including a humorous RP-ing moment where we nominated the gentleman for a human sacrifice and took his silence for assent), I ejected him – my first ejectee!

I felt somewhat badly about giving him the boot, but I had the same thought as you: would he have simply walked through my typist’s front door? (Answer: no, because it’s locked. )

Now that I’ve taken the easy ones…

(For all my very eclectic listening habits, I never get more than four or five songs on these things myself. Actually, that’s probably BECAUSE of those eclectic tastes! LOL)

I think this may have been helped along by a conversation about self and relationships I had last week with my first boyfriend from high school, who I’ve actually remained pretty good friends with — better than said college boyfriend. (Hearing that the way my mind works is amazing, in a good way, has remarkable benefits to my self-perception! LOL) Except for certain moments my sixteenth year, I was an odd duck in H.S. Surprisingly MUCH more stable than I have been since, at least until I started trying to get back to that old me.

I followed much the same path earlier in my life. I also tried, for a while, to be someone I wasn’t (a social butterfly) in SL, and came to the conclusion that I’d rather be me than try to be someone else in SL, just as in first life.

Thanks for a great article!

The hat is awesome, isn’t it? I should dig up the SLurl for the full outfit, which I didn’t get at Dark Victorian. The store I bought it at has all sorts of fun little hats and dresses like it. I think it goes best with that hair style, too. I tried it with a long, loose style and it doesn’t have that same jaunty feel as on top of the ‘proper’ up-do.

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